How to Keep the Fights Clean & the Sex Dirty

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It’s a P3 party! Enjoy a parade of articles, stories, updates and musings on all things Playful, Peaceful and Passionate in relationship. Read up on the most fun and useful tips for keeping the fights clean and the sex dirty and turning the relationship you have into the one you REALLY want.

Identify & Eliminate “Friction Factors”

Things Can Get Nasty. You’re in the thick of it. You’ve felt the tension building. Now suddenly it’s a free-for-all.Triggers, reactions and emotions are flying high.Maybe you even sink to resorting to the no-holds-barred manner of relating. And it’s off the races to who is right, who’s wrong, who’s the victim or who’s the oppressor.

Romp Recap To The Rescue

Even-Better–IF-ing. Think of all the places in life we look at what went well, what we loved and what could have worked better.We’re nearly constantly assessing how things went and making adjustments for an even better future. There is even a term for it – EBI’s – Even Better Ifs.

How to Turn Breakdowns Into Breakthroughs

The Storm Has Passed. OK the storm has passed. The fight is over. NOW what?You may want to forget about the fight that just happened, however, as they say, those who do not learn from history are DOOMED TO REPEAT THEMSELVES.

The Power of a Proactive Perspective

The PRO-ACTIVE Perspective. Being proactive and moving TOWARDS what you DO want is a top priority in all the relationship “work” we do.It takes focus, education, intention and attention to be PRO-ACTIVE and move TOWARDS, because as humans, we are designed AND conditioned to react to what’s coming at you and either move away or lash out.

Tame Triggers & Unhook, Even In the Heat Of It

All Too Quickly The Claws Came Out. We had just arrived at one of our favorite restaurants, in one of our favorite cities (Wild Ginger in downtown Seattle), and for seemingly NO reason and certainly no GOOD reason, we started to get short with each other.

Introducing FCSD TV

It WASN’T AWESOME. Raj and I really STRUGGLED in the first few years of our relationship. It was not playful, peaceful or passionate. It was PAINFUL. There was a lot of conflict, drama, tears and even more than a few holes punched in the wall. It was so rough that AT OUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY, a dear friend pulled us aside and said “Really? I don’t think you should do this. It looks pretty messy from here.”

Nip Nagging in the Bud

NAGGING SUCKS! I know. It’s like fingernails on the chalkboard. It’s so grating, you don’t even want to think about it.No matter if you are doing the nagging or being nagged – it simply sucks. NO ONE likes it!

Get Your Play On

Got play in YOUR partnership? When was the last time you…Laughed a full belly laugh with your beloved? Felt excited or even giddy about spending time with them?

The 3 Rs of a Rocking Relationship

We all grew up with the 3 Rs, the foundation of learning…reading, writing and arithmetic. I always found it odd that the Education community choose to call it the three Rs when only one actually starts with an R?!, but yes, they are the core skills needed to succeed in school.

Take Risks & Be Bold

Stretching into new realms of your sexual relationship can be intimidating, awkward or just uncomfortable. But it’s sooooo worth it. We’ve all heard the stories of couples that have been together for decades and they say the sex just keeps getting better and better. So we know it IS possible.

The Hot & Bothered Back Seat Driver

Raj and I are all about taking a lighter approach to ending conflict and increasing intimacy.We know that bringing play to every part of our relationship, even our conflicts, has been the single quickest, most effective, always-have-it-on-you solution to any of our relationship unrest.

Mastering of Mini Seductions Makes for Some Mighty Fine Sexy Time

If you are like most couples, you likely have a full and busy life. A lot to think about, manage, juggle and stretch. Often by the time you get to bed, sex and intimacy might seem a million miles away. The “on ramp” to awesome sex might seem like a long arduous task rather than an easy-access experience you can truly enjoy.

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