Do you ever fight repeatedly about something fairly stupid but you both seem to care A LOT about? This one is a bit embarrassing, but it’s real and current.And I hope it inspires others to find a way to have an argument turn into intimacy and compromise become SYNERGY.We’ve used our PEACE PRACTICE of BOTH IS BETTER THAN ONE to go from a repeat aggravation between us to an up-leveling of intimacy.
Intimacy or Irritation? If you want a successful relationship, it takes INTENTION, ATTENTION and ACTION. Awesome intimacy doesn’t happen by default. The default in a relationship for most couples is to let layers of let downs build up until there’s a Relationship Residue so thick, intimacy turns to irritation and eventually irreconcilable differences.
Subtle Yet Super SexyAfter over a decade of getting it on with my husband, one night something happened that was VERY different.We had always had a pretty great sexlife (and thanks to our 90 Day Games it just kept getting better and better over the years), yet what was happening between us in that moment was sexy, powerful and HOT in a whole NEW way!
Use It or Lose It!If you don’t USE quality communication skills, you’ll likely get USED UP by an ugly argument at some point or another. Or maybe even over and over again. Augh! Who needs it?!So let’s look at the two most meaningful rules to follow to create connection and avoid conflict through conscious communication.
All Too Quickly The Claws Came OutWe had just arrived at one of our favorite restaurants, in one of our favorite cities (Wild Ginger in downtown Seattle), and for seemingly NO reason and certainly no GOOD reason, we started to get short with each other.Then snippy.
Get The Gist. We know you’re busy and life is FULL, still a crappy relationship is a huge energy and time suck, right? We get you don’t have a lot of either to spare, still you DO need help. We all do! A playful, peaceful, passionate relationship TAKES SOMETHING, but it IS worth it. And we’re here to make it easier and more fun than ever.
You might think the “deed is done,” but is it, really? It’s time to take a closer look and discover new ways to scoop up all that yummy post orgasmic energy, good times and goodwill to ensure that you just keep getting closer and closer – and that the sex just keeps getting better and better.
Move On or Move FORWARD? That was NO fun at all! Arguing rarely is, right? It might have even gotten a little ugly there for a moment too. Yet you made it to the other side.Or did you?Now that the fight is “over,” if you’re like most people, you’re just glad it’s over, grateful you managed to get through it. Now you just want to put it behind you, forget about it and MOVE ON.
Say ItTry this. Read this out loud.Yes. Yeeeeeeees. Yesssssssss. YES!Now this one…No. Nooooooooooo. Nnnnnnnnnno. NO!Which one feels better on your lips and in your body?
A Big, Ugly Fight – Over Nothing!A few years ago, Raj & I got into a big, ugly fight. Over NOTHING! He had been having a heavy load of technology hurdles (our 2nd greatest contributor to an argument emerging, right after #1, which is getting hangry), and was feeling quite stressed, frustrated and distracted. I was about to leave town for four days for a retreat with a nonprofit board I was on.
A P3 RELATIONSHIP IS POSSIBLE
Relationships – they’re not all fun and games – but they sure do help!