Our Story (A.K.A. Our Dirty Little Secret)

We want to let you in on our dirty little secret. Well, maybe we don’t WANT to, as it is embarrassing, still we will because we care and want couples to enjoy each other, day-to-day, for years to come.

Sure, Raj and I are now happier, having more play, peace and passion in our relationship than EVER, still, we had some pretty dark, tough, LONG days early on in our relationship. It most certainly was NOT always so playful, peaceful or passionate. In many ways it was downright PAINFUL.

We both shared a strong sense that something felt VERY RIGHT to be together, yet we were so different, we argued A LOT and our fights got embarrassing or ugly WAY too easily, and WAY too often.

As hard as it is to admit, our relationship was SO shaky, that at our engagement party, one of our closest friends sat us down and said…

“REALLY? Are you sure you want to do this? It looks pretty messy from here.”


It was supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives, full of celebration and well wishes and yet there Raj and I were, getting cautioned by our friend to RECONSIDER!

Why would he say that? Well, I’d say Raj and my relationship was volatile, but the upsets were WAY too predictable for that to be true. Raj and I were at the end of our rope. We were so close to throwing in the towel and completely calling it quits.

If you can relate to having repetitive or embarrassing arguments or your fun plans or restful days have become regularly ruined, then maybe Raj and my story can help you not feel so alone or hopeless in this. We get it. You are NOT alone.