Set & Setting Are EVERYTHING!

I’m not into psychedelics, but I sure am into super satisfying sex!

Still, you can learn a lot about how to have super-satisfying-sex by taking a lesson out of the psychedelic handbook.

“Set and setting” is EVERYTHING.

Dr. Norman E. Zinberg developed this theory as applied to psychedelic experiences, but it’s a great eye opener when applied to SEXUAL experiences too!

Sex Is A LOT Like “Tripping”

When you think about it, “tripping” and sex can be quite similar…

They are both intimate, open, vulnerable experiences where a little preparation can go a LONG way.

Just take a look at the Wikipedia description and imagine these elements as applied to your sexlife.

  • “Set” is the mental state a person brings to the experience, like thoughts, mood and expectations.

  • “Setting” is the physical and social environment.


You and your beloved’s mental state or mood and your surroundings are the two most critical contributing factors to having great sex (or for some, a great trip).

“Stress, fear, or a disagreeable environment, may result in an unpleasant experience (a bad trip)”

Or in this case, bad sex or even NO sex at all!

“Conversely, a relaxed, curious person in a warm, comfortable and safe place is more likely to have a pleasant experience.”

Warm, comfortable, relaxed, safe – yes please! Sounds like a perfect environment for stripping down and getting down.

Ultra Unsettling or Supremely Sexy

Failure to Prepare

A bad trip, or in this case bad sex (or sex not happening at all), “can be exacerbated by the inexperience or irresponsibility of the user.”

Both in psychedelics, and in sex, failure to prepare can lead to “anxiety and alienation.” Your mental state and physical surroundings, can be ULTRA UNSETTLING or SUPREMELY SEXY.

Plain and simple, set and setting make a HUGE difference.

It’s the difference between enjoying a heart and body opening adventure in intimacy or suffering through an awkward, frustrating, even anxiety provoking and arduous entanglement.

Ask Yourself

When you want to create a special sexy experiene for you and your beloved, you might ask yourself….

      • What mood are you bringing to the sexual experience? Are you stressed? Distracted? Or present and excited? Are you feeling self focused or are you thinking of your partner’s pleasure?

      • What mood is your beloved in? Worried? Stressed? Vulnerable? Playful? Peaceful? Passionate? Can you meet your beloved where they are at in the moment and help them transition into this sexy adventure with you?

      • Where you’ll physically be – Is there privacy? Will you be distrubed? Is it ok to make some noise?

      • Any impact of the time of day – Is your beloved not yet awake? Too late and passing out? Guests coming over? Kids coming home? What time is sexy-time o’clock?