How to Keep the Fights Clean & the Sex Dirty

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It’s time to stop fighting and start flirting. It’s time to stop BEING busy and start GETTING busy. FCSD TV is here to make it easy and fun.

Where “Keeping the Fights Clean
& the Sex Dirty” All Started

The day we got married, someone told us “All you need to remember for a great marriage is to keep the fights clean and the sex dirty!” We thought that was GREAT advice. And years later, when we surveyed our clients and asked what THEY struggled with the most in their relationship, they all pretty much fell into those two categories. If you know how to “keep it clean” when it comes to fighting and “keep it dirty” when it comes to sex, then you are bound to enjoy a playful, peaceful, passionate relationship.

Learning next level skills for when and how to be nice and when and how to be naughty so you can save being nasty for your sex life is a Relationship Game Changer so all our tips are organized into how to keep the Fights Clean or the Sex Dirty. We also organize these top tips, tools and techniques by WHEN you will need them the most. What you do well BEFORE a fight starts verses when you are IN IT, is VERY different. So all our tips are organized by what the best tip is for the juuuust the right moment.

Keeping the Fights Clean

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How to turn repeat, extreme and long lasting fights into rare, mild and shortlived ones.
Had enough of argument exhaustion and being emotionally starved?
Learn how to keep the fights clean now!

BEFORE

It’s what you do well before any fights flare up that will dictate how OFTEN you fight, how BAD it gets and how LONG it lasts. INVEST even a little intention, attention and action BEFORE any problems surface and avoid it being DEMANDED of you later.

AS IT STARTS

Put an end to blaming, shaming and complaining NOW! STOP that argument in it’s tracks, tame the tension and turn what WAS well on it’s way to upset and separate-ness, into new levels of intimacy, bringing you CLOSER than you were before any tension had started.

DURING

In a heated, ugly argument, the stakes are high, the dynamic is volatile and the outcome is often costly, if not devastating. Don’t let your conscious, compassionate, big-picture brain get hijacked by your reactive, defensive, fight-or-flight “lower brain.”

AFTER

You got upset and argued. You might have even let it get a bit ugly. Still, you managed to get through it. NOW WHAT? Don’t just move on, move FORWARD. You CAN turn an argument into intimacy or a breakdown into a breakthrough.

Keeping the Sex Dirty

How to turn distractions, boredom, and blocks into intention, excitement and bliss.
Had enough separateness, feeling lonely (even when you’re together) and stale,
predictible sex (if much of any at all!)? Learn how to keep the sex dirty now!

BEFORE

Ever heard of 24 Hour Foreplay? Sex gets sexy (or goes south) WELL BEFORE the seduction even begins. Baby step actions can lead to tidal wave impact so show even just a little love (and lust), early and often to keep it healthy, happy and hot!

AS IT STARTS

Stale, predictable and even boring are the most common words I hear from couples describing their sexual hurdles. Keeping it fresh, fun and flirty is a VERY good idea for any couple. Learn what a little focus on timing, temptation and teasing can do for YOUR relationship.

DURING

Don’t let the hot coals of passion cool, turn to ash and disappear. You CAN fuel the fire, keep those coals glowing and ensure that your sex-life just keeps getting better and better. Best-Eva-Sexy-Time is NOT behind you!

AFTER

You might think the “deed is done,” but is it, really? Scoop up all that yummy post orgasmic energy, good times and goodwill so you just keep getting closer and closer and the sex just keeps getting better and better.

Season #10
THE SEASON OF PEACE

Season 10 is the Season of PEACE. Because anyone in a relationship knows, it takes something! A P3 Relationship does NOT happen on its own. You have to actually have the INTENTION to find out what TRANQUIL feels like.

We make this fun, positive and use themes to inspire and motivate us to keep our eyes on the prize and to resist the drain and drudgery of the default way of relating.

Save the HEAT for the healthy-happy-hot-sex-life! You’ve got this! And it CAN be the BEST year on your RELATIONSHIP.

While we will cycle through the eight core FCSDTV topics (Fights Clean: Before, As It Starts, During & After and Sex Dirty: Before, As It Starts, During & After), each episode this season will bring extra focus on how to bring more PLAY to your relationship.

Interact with educated, experienced, entertaining specialists in the relationship realm. And nearly ALL of our interviewees are couples, even if their beloved is not also an expert.  That way you won’t hear just theory or good ideas, you’ll get to SEE for yourself. The proof is in the unspoken pudding! (And stay tuned for upcoming announcements on the Awesome Interviewees we’ve got in store for you this season.)

Expect to laugh, learn and love yourself and your beloved more with every episode! Season 10 runs from September 25th to November 13th!

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Ep. 10.1 With Lucia & Jacob

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If you take the time to explore shadow, moods and boundaries BEFORE an argument emerges then you set your relationship up for turning any conflict into greater connection. Join Raj and I with our special guests Lucia Gabriela & Jacob Jones, for the first episode of the season as we discuss how to identify and even anticipate shadow, moods, and common conflicts. Then translate those hurdles into habits and practices that bring peace to you, the moment and the relationship.

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Ep. 9.8 With Ashae & Lucien

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Ditch your dry and default habits for your after orgasm-experience. Dip your toes into these top tips, tools and techniques to close the container post-gettin'-it-on. Learn how to turn that opportune time into something special that nourishes you not only now, but sets you up for next-level-lovin' next time.
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Ep. 9.7 Sarah Liz Reynoso

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Don't just move PAST an argument, move FORWARD! Get in on this intimate exploration of what to do AFTER getting in on to bring you even closer together (and have the sexy-time just keep getting sexier and sexier!)
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Ep. 9.6 With Ken Blackman

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If you're feeling bored, disconnected, frustrated or suppressed with your sexlife and you want more attraction, intimacy and excitement in it, then join us at Fights Clean Sex Dirty TV with our special guest Ken Blackman as we dive into "How to Use Pace, Timing and Your Spidey Senses to Satiate Sexy Desires".
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Ep. 9.5 With Brenda & Chris

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Learn to embrace the opportunities in your arguments and pivot out of upset and into intimacy. We'll dive into feelings vs. facts, how to get below the surface and even how to get ahead of it all in the first place. Join our awesome interviewees Brenda and Chris as we explore "How to Keep the Fights Clean: DURING - 6 Top Tips for De-Escalating A Dispute".
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Ep. 9.4 With Leslie Grace

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Find out your and your beloved’s Flavor of Desire and how to speak the same sexual language. Come learn how to turn the messiness of relationship into some sexiness. Plus you’ll learn how to bring some lightness and fun to exploring your edges in intimacy. Join us as we explore How to Keep the Sex Dirty: AS IT STARTS with Tantra teacher Leslie Grace in Episode 9.4 “5 Games to Play to Create Authentic Sexy Connection”
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Ep. 9.3 With Sierra and Rono

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Get in on this! Get off the freeway of fights by avoiding those pesky argument onramps and up-leveling your love life with these quick, simple and fun tips. Join Raj and I, together with Sierra Sullivan and Rono Smith as we explore How to Keep the Fights Clean, AS IT STARTS: “5 Tips for Avoiding Argument Onramps”
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Ep. 9.2 With Alexa and Jordan

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Whether your love life is happy, healthy and hot depends more on your day-to-day dynamic than anything new skill or big romantic date. Create an everyday culture of keeping it passionate and pleasurable. Join us for top tips for YOUR next steps towards super satisfying sexiness.
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Ep. 9.1 With Wendy Newman

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Learn how to ditch the DEFAULT of blaming, shaming and complaining and instead step into a delightful relationship by DESIGN where TOGETHER, you create a map of what you BOTH want. Join Gaby & Raj along with Wendy Newman, Media-Celebrated Author, Dating, Sex & Relationship Expert, as we dive deep into "How to Keep the Fights Clean - BEFORE, "Creating A Forward Focus for A Fabulous Relationship"

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Keeping the Fights Clean

How to turn repeat, extreme and long lasting fights into rare, mild and short-lived ones.
Had enough of argument exhaustion and being emotionally starved? Learn how to keep the fights clean now!

Fights-Clean-Steps-Circle-(Before)

It’s what you do well before any fights flare up that will dictate how OFTEN you fight, how BAD it gets and how LONG it lasts.
INVEST even a little intention, attention and action BEFORE any problems surface and avoid it being DEMANDED of you later.!

AS IT STARTS

Put an end to blaming, shaming and complaining NOW! STOP that argument in it’s tracks, tame the tension and turn what WAS well on it’s way to upset and separate-ness, into new levels of intimacy, bringing you CLOSER than you were before any tension had started.

DURING

In a heated, ugly argument, the stakes are high, the dynamic is volatile and the outcome is often costly, if not devastating. Don’t let your conscious, compassionate, big-picture brain get hijacked by your reactive, defensive, fight-or-flight “lower brain.”

AFTER

You got upset and argued. You might have even let it get a bit ugly. Still, you managed to get through it. NOW WHAT? Don’t just move on, move FORWARD. You CAN turn an argument into intimacy or a breakdown into a breakthrough.

Keeping the Sex Dirty

How to turn distractions, boredom, and blocks into intention, excitement and bliss. Had enough
separateness, feeling lonely (even when you’re together) and stale, predictible sex (if much of any at all!)?
Learn how to keep the sex dirty now!

Ever heard of 24 Hour Foreplay? Sex gets sexy (or goes south) WELL BEFORE the seduction even begins. Baby step actions can lead
to tidal wave impact so show even just a little love (and lust), early and often to keep it healthy, happy and hot!

AS IT STARTS

Stale, predictible and even boring are the most common words I hear from couples describing their sexual hurdles. Keeping it fresh, fun and flirty is a VERY good idea for any couple. Learn what a little focus on timing, temptation and teasing can do for YOUR relationship.

DURING

Don’t let the hot coals of passion cool, turn to ash and disappear. You CAN fuel the fire, keep those coals glowing and ensure that your sex life just keeps getting better and better. Best-Eva-Sexy-Time is NOT behind you!

AFTER

You might think the “deed is done,” but is it, really? Scoop up all that yummy post orgasmic energy, good times and goodwill so you just keep getting closer and closer and the sex just keeps getting better and better.