How to Keep the Fights Clean & the Sex Dirty

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Take Charge & Surrender for Awesome Advances in Intimacy

Subtle Yet Super Sexy After over a decade of getting it on with my husband, one night something happened that was VERY different. We had always had a pretty great sexlife (and thanks to our 90 Day Games it just kept getting better and better over the years), yet what was happening between us in that moment was sexy, powerful and […]

The Top Two Rules to Keep In Mind for Conscious Communication

Use It or Lose It! If you don’t USE quality communication skills, you’ll likely get USED UP by an ugly argument at some point or another. Or maybe even over and over again. Augh! Who needs it?! So let’s look at the two most meaningful rules to follow to create connection and avoid conflict through conscious communication. Prepare or Prepare to Die! Most […]

Stop. Shift. Start

All Too Quickly The Claws Came Out We had just arrived at one of our favorite restaurants, in one of our favorite cities (Wild Ginger in downtown Seattle), and for seemingly NO reason and certainly no GOOD reason, we started to get short with each other. Then snippy. And all too quickly the claws came out. I was thinking (in […]

RFG Quick Tip Video Clip #8 – “Romp Recap”

Get The Gist We know you’re busy and life is FULL, still a crappy relationship is a huge energy and time suck, right? We get you don’t have a lot of either to spare, still you DO need help. We all do! A playful, peaceful, passionate relationship TAKES SOMETHING, but it IS worth it. And we’re here to make it […]

Romp Replay Ripple Effect

Stretch the Impact You might think the “deed is done,” but is it, really? It’s time to take a closer look and discover new ways to scoop up all that yummy post orgasmic energy, good times and goodwill to ensure that you just keep getting closer and closer – and that the sex just keeps getting better and better. Don’t […]

Argument Even-Better-If-ing

Move On or Move FORWARD? That was NO fun at all! Arguing rarely is, right? It might have even gotten a little ugly there for a moment too. Yet you made it to the other side. Or did you? Now that the fight is “over,” if you’re like most people, you’re just glad it’s over, grateful you managed to get through […]

YES Them

Say It Try this. Read this out loud. Yes. Yeeeeeeees. Yesssssssss. YES! Now this one… No. Nooooooooooo. Nnnnnnnnnno. NO! Which one feels better on your lips and in your body? I hope you said YES! What a great word, right? It’s open. It welcomes, invites and starts. A Natural YES Now some things are easier to say yes to than others, and some feel impossible. And in plenty […]

6 Little Words to Save A So-So Moment From Turning So, So Ugly

A Big, Ugly Fight – Over Nothing! A few years ago, Raj & I got into a big, ugly fight. Over NOTHING! He had been having a heavy load of technology hurdles (our 2nd greatest contributor to an argument emerging, right after #1, which is getting hangry), and was feeling quite stressed, frustrated and distracted. I was about to leave […]

Booty Before Breki

Stale, Predictable & Boring One of the most common complaints we hear when someone is unsatisfied with their sexlife with their beloved is that it can, little by little, get stale, predictable, and some even say, boring. Which sucks because that leads to you having less and less sexy-time and becoming more and more separate and ultimately even roommate like. […]

The Noose of Negativity & The Drama-Free Diet

The Noose of Negativity Negativity is the 2nd WORST thing that you can do to harm your relationship (More on #1 here). Indulge in negativity and you are putting a noose around your relationship’s neck! It’s not the big things that bring a relationship down, rather, it’s the day-to-day dynamic between you and your beloved that will determine the success of […]