How to Keep the Fights Clean & the Sex Dirty

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Stop. Shift. Start

All Too Quickly The Claws Came Out We had just arrived at one of our favorite restaurants, in one of our favorite cities (Wild Ginger in downtown Seattle), and for seemingly NO reason and certainly no GOOD reason, we started to get short with each other. Then snippy. And all too quickly the claws came out. I was thinking (in […]

RFG Quick Tip Video Clip #6 – “The Three No’s of Naughty “

Wildly Wonderful Winning If you want to ensure that your sex-life keeps getting better and better, well then get more and more curious. Ask questions. Find new edges. Make it safe to explore and express. Let your beloved know that their desires are important to you. Even if what turns them on, doesn’t turn you on – you ARE still […]

RFG Quick Tip Video Clip #1 – “The Problem is The Path”

Things Can Get Nasty You’re in the thick of it. You’ve felt the tension building. Now suddenly it’s a free-for-all. Triggers, reactions and emotions are flying high. Maybe you even sink to resorting to the no-holds-barred manner of relating. And it’s off the races to who is right, who’s wrong, who’s the victim or who’s the oppressor. Things can get nasty, even ugly and […]

RFG Quick Tip Video Clip #8 – “Romp Recap”

Get The Gist We know you’re busy and life is FULL, still a crappy relationship is a huge energy and time suck, right? We get you don’t have a lot of either to spare, still you DO need help. We all do! A playful, peaceful, passionate relationship TAKES SOMETHING, but it IS worth it. And we’re here to make it […]

Romp Replay Ripple Effect

Stretch the Impact You might think the “deed is done,” but is it, really? It’s time to take a closer look and discover new ways to scoop up all that yummy post orgasmic energy, good times and goodwill to ensure that you just keep getting closer and closer – and that the sex just keeps getting better and better. Don’t […]

Argument Even-Better-If-ing

Move On or Move FORWARD? That was NO fun at all! Arguing rarely is, right? It might have even gotten a little ugly there for a moment too. Yet you made it to the other side. Or did you? Now that the fight is “over,” if you’re like most people, you’re just glad it’s over, grateful you managed to get through […]

YES Them

Say It Try this. Read this out loud. Yes. Yeeeeeeees. Yesssssssss. YES! Now this one… No. Nooooooooooo. Nnnnnnnnnno. NO! Which one feels better on your lips and in your body? I hope you said YES! What a great word, right? It’s open. It welcomes, invites and starts. A Natural YES Now some things are easier to say yes to than others, and some feel impossible. And in plenty […]

6 Little Words to Save A So-So Moment From Turning So, So Ugly

A Big, Ugly Fight – Over Nothing! A few years ago, Raj & I got into a big, ugly fight. Over NOTHING! He had been having a heavy load of technology hurdles (our 2nd greatest contributor to an argument emerging, right after #1, which is getting hangry), and was feeling quite stressed, frustrated and distracted. I was about to leave […]

Booty Before Breki

Stale, Predictable & Boring One of the most common complaints we hear when someone is unsatisfied with their sexlife with their beloved is that it can, little by little, get stale, predictable, and some even say, boring. Which sucks because that leads to you having less and less sexy-time and becoming more and more separate and ultimately even roommate like. […]

The Noose of Negativity & The Drama-Free Diet

The Noose of Negativity Negativity is the 2nd WORST thing that you can do to harm your relationship (More on #1 here). Indulge in negativity and you are putting a noose around your relationship’s neck! It’s not the big things that bring a relationship down, rather, it’s the day-to-day dynamic between you and your beloved that will determine the success of […]